This is about striving to become a better writer...
I can give you the flower but how can I give you the fragrance?
I found this sentence in a book about Taoism. The author places the onus on the person about to receive the flower. It is up to this person to become more sensitive, more alert. He says by meditation we can clean off the dust and dirt that cake our sensitivity.
I get this. But I was inspired to travel a different road on this thought.
I can write you a story but how can I give you its essence?
There really isn't a clear cut answer to this question. I suspect though, it's much like removing dust and dirt from our writing. Get the first draft out. Then distill and revise, distill and revise. Reach for clarity. Ask yourself if words are getting in the way of your message and then distill and revise more if necessary.
In the end it really is up to the reader. But at least we can give them the best shot at engaging their nose.