Ralphy was one of those kids who went unnoticed during school and life. In school he could hang with either the Jocks, the Greasers, the Collegiates*, the Heads or the Nerds (Geeks if they'd been invented then). Though he loved sports, the Jocks were his least favorite group. Later on in life Ralphy could hang with ironworkers, librarians, executives, truck drivers, gangsters (not gangsta's), consultants or IT guys.
Although Ralphy had the ability to hang at most times, there were certain periods of his life when he hung out with certain types of people. When he was with these folks, he migrated away from the others. Such was a time in the early to mid 70's.
Ralphy was hanging out with the Heads. Pink Floyd, Strawberry Boonesfarm wine and a little Columbian frequented him and his friends throughout a two year stretch. One day at the end of this period, he was sitting on the sidewalk on the Haight-Ashbury strip of his town when Suzie nearly tripped over him. He hadn't seen Suzie in two years. They quickly caught up. Suzie got to Ralphy. He now yearned to escape the haze-laden merry-go-round of his life and hang with her. Or at least around her and his old friends who now worked at the agency. And he did just that.
A short time later on a warm July morning, Ralphy sat on a bench in the park looking out at the river. He'd still run in to his various groups of friends. While he valued their friendships, the connections waned. It was good to revisit an old friend. Ralphy had always connected with Suzie and her crew. But during his period with the Heads, it was a weak connection. Now, because of an open mind, a fresh breeze of Spring - a reconnection, blew in from the river.
Sometimes what you could use, you've always had.
I had picked up a copy of Making a Literary Life during a period of my life when I wasn't quite connecting with my writing. It spoke Chinese as I read English. I picked it off of my book shelf yesterday and was delighted to see we were both speaking the same language.
So, which group of my friends was I hanging around with when I originally picked up Making a Literary Life? Management and leadership books - the Heads.
*Ralphy owned a pair of wingtips and a pair of penny loafers. He also owned a black leather coat and sweaters.